Every moment we spent either alone or with others is filled with the emotions. Emotions could be of anger, sadness, disgust, fear or joy and laughter.
The emotions are the instruments of mind. The mind uses emotions per its convenience to control the person’s actions.
“Mind is a good slave though a terrible master.”
“So Is it not virtuous to be emotional? Is it not good to burst out of laughter or cry when you felt like crying?”. Well, these are logical questions, especially knowing that Man is the only species that is soaring in emotions. We don’t expect emotions drizzling from the plants and animals.
We are emotional beings and there is nothing wrong with being emotional irrespective; we are adults and not kids. I will call adults ‘Big Kids’.
Let me share two short stories with you, One story is of ‘Kids’ and the other of ‘Big Kids’, actually it’s an incident I witnessed last week.
Once, I was standing at my balcony & was watching a few kids playing football in a park. While playing, one child got hurt. He started crying. Seeing the child hurt, a few of the children laughed and other sympathised, then things became normal and everyone resumed the game.
On the same day, our cook got hurt while making breakfast. She cried and after an hour also; she showed her wound to my wife. Then, she shared her stories that how her life is up to the terrible phase in the past few days and months. This injury was the testimony of her awful life phase.
The difference between the Child and Maid story was that “Child didn’t let the emotions took over” while the maid was scratching her wounds and fell flat into the arms of emotions.
“It hurts when you hold emotions for long…”
I will share another incident that happened to me in one of the training I attended a few months back. The training name was “Crucial Conversations”. It was a corporate setup and people knew each other as colleagues since 20+ years or more.
In one segment of the training, the trainer made the pair and asked each person to vent out any past grudge or grudging emotions with the other, then both people to listen, forgive each other and move on.
Well, to do this exercise, the trainer spent the first two days to create a jovial environment to let this exercise take meaningful shape.
When we listened to the responses, it was shocking to hear that one person had so much anger, sadness and other emotions for the other. This was because of a minor incident that happened 20 years ago. After the exercise, everyone had a pleasant laugh and had a sound relationship with the other.
“It builds remarkable relationships when we don’t hold our emotions…”
I feel “Emotions are good only if we keep them temporarily and not permanent”. Let the emotions appear and disappear and do not hold it for long.
Just this awareness can make a significant difference in one’s life. Self-awareness is a gift, unwrap it and share it with others.