“When you live for every second, tomorrow doesn’t matter!” -Stephen Richards
Think that you have set goals in some areas and continuously striving to achieve. Most of the time you may be struggling during your journey to achieve the target. You will be at the peak of your happiness and you will have a thrill of joy when you reach a particular target or objective but think about your journey period when you were arduously struggling during action steps you had undergone especially when you had battles of failures. You must have spent 90 % of your time during your journey full of mental and physical struggles and you must have attained the state of sometimes leaving the struggle to achieve the goal. During your journey, if you are tragically cursing yourself and feeling unhappy, your mental state may give you negative feelings. If the moment of that unhappy struggle is thought positive and felt happy just like a blessing in disguise, it will turn your bad time into comparatively better moments or feelings.
Blessing In Disguise
During one of my transfers away from my home, l was cursing and said many unusual things to God. But as the new place was near the sea and it provided me a very different perspective on my life and I developed a new sport and adventure, scuba diving underneath the sea. During a business deal, one of my friends was very much upset with the split of the partnership. When he approached me literally broken, I advise not to be upset as there are always some beneficial factors in all the events. Later on, when he met me he was very happy as his partner was in heavy debt. He said, “ Thank God I am saved of that disaster.”
Nice Thing Happened
I had read a story of a kingdom whose one of the advisers always said to his king, “Nice thing happened!” The adviser of the king always accompanied the king but during his hunting trip to the forest, the king told to adviser not to go with him. He again said as usual to the king “ Nice thing happened!” Meantime the king was injured in an accident and the thumb of the right leg was cut. The adviser again told, “Nice thing happened!” The king got him arrested and put him in jail. During hunting, he came across a tribe. The leader of the tribe declared to tribe people who were dancing on drum bits that his Goddess required a human victim. The prerequisite of the victim was decided that all the bones in the body should be intact before cutting his throat. The king was caught as a victim but when they show one of the fingers was missing and therefore he was disqualified as a victim and therefore they left the king. The king came back to the kingdom and released the adviser and thanked him. He emphasized and asked the adviser for uttering the same sentence again why he usually used the same sentence, “Nice thing happened!” The adviser mentioned, “See, while you were caught by tribe you could be saved, but if I would have accompanied you, I would have put myself in danger and cut my throat by the tribe as I had all the bones in tack. if I was not put in jail, I would have lost my life. The king also ultimately said, “Nice thing happened!” So there is always a blessing in disguise and therefore everything should be taken positive and thought to be in favor.
Advise Bigger Line
During my banking job, one of my fellow managers who was newly married got very upset and cursed for his marriage. I asked him, “What happened? He said that his wife abused him. I told him, “Thank God, my friend, she has not bitten you!” I compared a small line with a bigger line and made his mental agony diminished. But the very next day another officer inquired about the incident and said what should I have told him if she had bitten him? I told, “ Thank God, your bones are not broken!” There is always a bigger line. In childhood days whenever I had pimples and blisters on my stomach, I used to cry with pain but my grandmother used to touch the pimples with a hot iron. It was a psychological effect of forgetting the pain of pimples when they were replaced by the pain of hot iron. In other words, the pain of hot iron was severe comparatively than the pain of pimples.
Positivity plays a vital role
During my stay at LAC during one of the military operation at the front, one of my soldier friends used to tell me, due to a lot of difficulties in this climate of minus 20 degrees and short of oxygen due to higher altitude of 15 thousand feet, I forgot my two major issue at my home place namely, death of younger one of my cow and the sudden collapse of my inherited home. Later on, the home was repaired, and by the time he reached home after completion of the operation the cow gave birth to another young one but the momentary forgetfulness gave a major relief to his mind. Another friend of mine when injured in operation blue star in one hand with a bullet, told me during my visit to a military hospital, “ Thank God I did not get an injury in the head!” He said, “ Those were the days of struggle and very busy schedules, even I could forget all my worries of home those might have made me very upset and sick. So there is always a good effect when you take everything in a positive manner.
Bite The Bullet
During my marathon running at one of the western commands of the Air Force, I was about to collapse during my last 5 kilometers of 42 kilometers race. The process of acid formation in the stomach and rising blood pressure gave the idea of quitting the race but I thought that there is no history of a marathoner who has died on the track or road. I explained to myself during the race, the acid in the stomach will kill all my germs, and rising BP would give the extended capacity to my heart so that it would become strong. I, therefore, endured and finished the race and all sufferings ended within few minutes with applauds of spectators.
1. Your success is always greater than your failures.
2. You may lose the battles but win the war