5 Common Things That Stand In The Way To Success

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What do we mean when we say “success”? There are numerous strategies for achieving success in life, but one that works best for you may be decided by your interpretation of success. We sometimes associate it with doing well at work or earning a high salary.

People may strive for success in a variety of areas, including family, romantic relationships, academics, and athletics. Your personal definition of success may vary, however many people consider themselves successful if they are fulfilled, happy, safe, secure, and loved.

It is the ability to achieve your life’s goals, whatever they might be. So, how do you improve your chances of achieving the set goals? What are some of the successful people’s habits?

There is no one-size-fits-all solution to success. It’s likely that what works for you won’t work for anyone else. There may not be a perfect recipe for success, but there are some simple steps you can follow to increase your chances of success in life, love, work, or whatever else is important to you.

  1. 1 Be A Person Of Value

    People would naturally gravitate toward you if you aim to provide value rather than take it. If you have an immense amount of value, you will attract more people. When it comes to money and wealth, the only way to really get richer is to add value to other people's lives.

    Building your reputation isn't the only way of achieving success. It's really about giving your best and not holding back.

    What I admire most about successful givers is that they rise to the top without shutting out others, instead of finding ways to expand the pie for themselves and the people around them. Although success is zero-sum in a group of takers, it may be true that the whole is greater than the sum of the parts in a group of givers

    We all want to be successful in our lives and professions. And success meaning is different to different people. Whatever success we seek, inspires and preoccupies us, and it can sometimes cloud the journey to that ultimate goal.

    What you do and the people you impact on your to the top can change everything.  Success can have a diminishing return if you put all of your efforts into it.

    Success takes longer than we plan or expect. The process can be stressful, that's why you should shift your focus from success to providing value, which will eventually lead to the success you want.

    Creating and providing value has a three-fold return. It doesn't stop there; it's also one of the most powerful strategies for self-improvement and motivation. There's nothing wrong with pursuing success — but when you want something so badly, it's all too easy to lose sight of who you are. Attempting to achieve success by any means possible can backfire. People will be able to see right through you. Unless you show your audience, followers, or customers that you care about making a real impact, you will lose them in the long run.

    When you concentrate exclusively on yourself, you repel others. People may dismiss or ignore you at some point in your career, particularly when they are frustrated.

    The Ultimate Career Investment is to Become a Person of Value.

    "Try not to become a person of success but a person of value.” — Albert Einstein

    Remember to focus on providing real value if you find yourself blinded by the hunt for success. It's a lot harder to practice, but it's important for long-term success.

    The long-term goal should be to build relationships and give people a sense of fulfillment. It's the most practical way of achieving long-term success.

    Others in your space will trust you, your brand, your service, or your product if they are satisfied with you and the value you have already provided. They want to be a part of your work and support you in the same way that you have supported in theirs.

    Offering value to others, whether they are exchanging money for it or not, is a much better way to approach success and relationships with others.

    If you shift your mindset from taking value to providing value the result will transform all areas of your life.

  2. 2 Provide The Causes, Enjoy The Effects

    The basic Law of Leadership is, 'As You Sow So Shall You Reap'.This is a proverb from the bible. It is man's responsibility to face the consequences of his actions. To put it more simply, in order to reap the benefits (i.e. achieve success), you must first sow. Otherwise, you will never be able to reap until you take action and put your ideas into action. Those who sow and plant are the those who reap. You must sow the seed in order to reap the crop. In the summer, take care of it. Harvest it with care, and use the harvest wisely.

    The Law of Compensation basically states that you will always be compensated for your efforts and contributions, no matter how big or small they are. How many people you serve and how well you serve them decide your income.

    Mathematically, this  can be explained as

    Compensation = How Many You Serve X How Well You Serve Them.

    For getting more compensation, we can do these two things:

    1. Can serve more people  and
    2. Can serve them better.

    Consider what you can do to serve more people if your compensation is not really that you would really like to be or if you'd like to do some amazing things with an increase.

    What can you do to serve more people?

    -Salespersons will obviously suggest prospecting more customers and in the process generate more sales. But what is not so obvious is that you can author a book, make a movie, generate an online training program, provide workshops, training events, and provide public talks, etc.

    -Offer more in terms of value. What more is there to say? Solve bigger problems by keeping updated with industry trends, the latest advancements, and the most cutting-edge technology. Early detection of problems can be achieved by innovation and experience.

    In the longer term, you will never be rewarded for more than you put in. The income you earn today is a reward for what you've done in the past. 

    Your mental attitude, as well as your feelings of satisfaction you must increase the value of your contribution if you'd like to increase your income and happiness, are a result of the things you have put into your mind. You will be rewarded with positive experiences in your daily activities if you fill your mind with emotions, dreams, and ideas of achievement, satisfaction, and optimism.

    Do more than you are paid for: Those who make it a habit to put in more than they take out are the ones who achieve great success. They move above and beyond what is expected of them. They are always on the look for better to exceed expectations. And since they are always overcompensating, they are always rewarded with the respect of their employers and customers, as well as the financial benefits associated with their personal success.

    Institute the causes that are consistent with the effects: One of the most important responsibilities in life is to align yourself and your activities with the Law of Cause and Effect (and its corollaries), recognizing that it is an inevitable law that operates whether or not anyone is looking. It is your responsibility to put in place the causes that are consistent with the effects you want in your life. Once you do, you will be able to realize and enjoy the benefits you desire.

    Major action points: To put these ideas into action, you can do these two things:

    To begin, remind yourself on a regular basis that your rewards will always be proportional to your quality of service to others. What are other ways you could improve the value of your services to your customers right today?

    Second, look for opportunities to go above and beyond.

  3. 3 Be The Energy You Want To Attract

    "No one cares how much you know until they know how much you care." ~ Theodore Roosevelt

    A leader's greatness is defined not by how much money he or she earns or what position he or she has, but by how many lives he or she has influenced. You will never be able to lead others if you lack influence.

    These are the top 5 myths about Leadership, people tend to believe:

    1. The Management Myth: The terms "leading" and "managing" are not synonymous. Management is concerned with the maintenance of systems and processes. Leading people in the right direction is what leadership is all about.
    2. The Entrepreneur Myth: Not that every entrepreneur is good with people. You can't lead if you can't influence people.
    3. The Knowledge Myth: Education and IQ have nothing to do with leadership. People with a high IQ or a long list of titles can be found, but their leadership qualities are extremely low.
    4. The Pioneer Myth: To be a leader, you must not only be at the front of the crowd but also have people following your lead and acting on your vision.
    5. The Position Myth: You don't need a position to be a leader. And no one can take away your influence over the lives of those who follow you, even if they take away your position.

    The above shows once again that the true measure of leadership is influence – nothing more, nothing less.

    In our life, all of us are Leaders. In our lives, we all have people that look up to us and follow our lead. Some people lead on a larger scale, while others lead on a smaller scale. The question to ask isn't "Am I a Leader?" but rather "What Kind of Leader Am I?"

    if you are a bad leader, you can only influence those who are in lower leadership levels themselves. You don't attract the people you want to be around. You attract people who are similar to you.

    Everyone has influence, irrespective of age, gender, faith, nationality, nationality, location, or position. You have influence even when you're alone. The most important person you can ever influence is yourself. The level of influence you have over yourself determines the level of influence you have with others. To increase our influence with others, we must practice discipline on a daily basis.

    Bear in mind that the terms "leadership" and "influence" can be used synonymously at any time and in any context. They are one and the same. All you ever achieve, both internally and externally, should be attributed to your influence. Our level of influence with others is largely determined by how we think and the choices that flow from our thoughts. Our thoughts become the foundation for our choices. Each of our choices decides whether or not we have an influence on others and how much influence we have.

  4. 4 Be True to Yourself

    Sometimes instead of being yourself, you're pretending to be someone else in order to fit in or impress others. Most of us have been in similar situations. Rather than acting authentically, we tell people what we think they want to hear and behave in ways that are inconsistent with our true nature. To put it another way, we're living inauthentically.

    It's stressful, demoralizing, and restricting to live and work in this manner. It can also prevent us from understanding our true potential. Living and working authentically is the exact opposite of this. We can live free of others' ideas and expectations when we give ourselves permission to be ourselves, and we can create our own course in life.

    What is Authenticity?

    Being authentic, according to some definition, means living your life according to your own beliefs and goals rather than those of someone else. To explain more simply, authenticity means remaining true to your own personality, values, and spirit, despite the social pressure to behave differently. You're open and honest with yourself and others, and you take responsibility for your mistakes. Your ideals, values, and actions are all in alignment. As a result, you seem genuine, and you're able to embrace the consequences of doing what you believe is right.

    Why Be Authentic?

    Living authentically isn't always simple. Trying something different to do what you believe is right can be difficult at times. It may include being unconventional, exposing yourself to the possibility of being hurt by others, and choosing the more difficult route. On the one hand, it does imply that you might miss out on certain opportunities – this is something you should accept.  However, in the long run, it's likely to open up many more opportunities that would otherwise be unavailable to anyone considered to be sketchy, uncertain, indecisive, or inauthentic.

    It's also much more satisfying to live an authentic life than it is to hide your true self. You don't have to think about what you said (or didn't say), how you behaved, or whether you did the right thing when you live authentically. Living authentically means having total trust in yourself and your motivations.

    How to Be Authentic?

    You won't be able to discover and grow your authentic identity overnight. These are some steps that can be taken to make a start.

    • Live by values: Living authentically means that you live according to your most strongly held values and beliefs and that your personal goals are generated from these.
    • Identify the Gap: Is there a gap between who you are now and who you like to be? Try to spot these gaps by making a list of words that describe the qualities of the person you know you should really be, then evaluating how closely these words describe how you actually are.
    • Live With Integrity: Your goal is to learn to listen to that "tiny voice" – that sense of unease – that tells you something is wrong. Analyze each choice and decide which one will make you feel good about yourself the next day. Living with dignity often requires taking some responsibility for one's actions, including mistakes. Take responsibility for your decisions and work tirelessly to correct any shortcomings.
    • Communicate honestly: Honest communication involves saying what you think while still respecting the needs and feelings of the other person. Honest communication also means keeping your promises.
    • Don't Make Assumptions: It is just too easy to make assumptions about others as you go through life. Try to suspend your judgments in situations where it isn't absolutely necessary. Allow others' actions to speak for themselves, and try to accept what they say at face value.
    • Develop Self-Confidence: Authenticity requires character strength, particularly when others are pressuring you to do something you believe to be wrong. This is why you should concentrate on increasing your self-confidence.
    • Manage Your Emotions: You recognize others' needs and do your best to treat them with courtesy and respect when you live authentically. This is an important aspect of living authentically because it reflects inner strength and respect for the others around you.
  5. 5 Stay Open To Receiving

    To the conscious mind, a question like "Are you open to receiving blessings and abundance from the universe?" can seem apparent. Of course, when gifts are presented to us, we are open, ready, willing, and able to receive them.

    The conscious mind,, however, has very little to do with what we actually experience in reality. We only use our conscious mind 5% of the time, but it is our conscious mind that contains our desires and aspirations. The subconscious mind is powerful approximately by 30,000 times of the conscious mind.

    Our deeply rooted belief systems and expectations about what is and will be are the most powerful tools we have to navigate the ship of our lives. When blessings are trying to come our way, these are the tools that sometimes create the most blockages and barriers. A completely open vessel will receive and hold more abundance, while a vessel (individual) filled with fears, lack, and unworthiness will actually shut out the amazing gifts that the universe is trying to send.

    So, how can we open ourselves up to receiving so that we can graciously embrace all of the blessings that are intended for us? Placing stipulations on the universe is one of the most common mistakes we make while attempting to manifest our dream reality. Sometimes, what our conscious mind wishes is less important in comparison to what the universe wishes to offer us.

    When we want something that isn't in line with our soul's highest destiny, the universe's biggest gift to us is not sending us what we're asking for. Let's say we are desperately trying to work things out with someone who is not the best match for us.

    A loving universe would not encourage us to manifest something that is not in our best interests in the long run.

    Often, when we become worried about a specific outcome, such as manifesting financial abundance, we become excessively concerned with the amount of money. Our conscious mind starts to come up with ideas about how to get that amount when what we really want is a feeling of safety and freedom.

    For most people, money is a means of not having to worry about how they should pay their bills (safety) and the freedom to live their lives as they wish. The essential aspect is the emotions associated with what they are trying to manifest, not the particular manifestation outcome.

    We must change ourselves, and then outer reality will be open to changing as well. We create the perfect set of conditions to remove fear-based subconscious belief systems by staying with each emotion as it is, not judging it, and embracing it.

    It is also time to energetically put yourself in the place to receive once you have eliminated your perception of how things should go in order to feel the emotions your heart desires. The most effective way to do so is to receive everything as a gift.

    The universe is constantly working hard to bring us our most fulfilling reality. It never punishes us, and when we understand this statement on a deeper level, we realize that anything that happens (no matter how painful or not) is in fact a gift from the universe.

    To Conclude:

    There is no single definition of success, and there is no single solution for how to be successful in life. You may learn new tactics and strategies to apply in your everyday life by studying some of the habits of successful people. Develop and nurture these abilities, and you may find that you are better able to achieve your goals and achieve the success you want in life over time.

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